Thursday, April 2, 2009

Whatever Martha 2

12 comments:

Σφιγξ said...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WYY-KKb3ZN8&eurl=http%3A%2F%2Fwindtonic23%2Eblogspot%2Ecom%2F&feature=player_embedded

"No, you cannot have a pony!"

Not yours.

Σφιγξ said...

I relate to this because I am still Sharon's employee, sibling second, and daughter last. I would live nearby and visit every time I could, if Sharon was in jail. She calls to make sure I get an ac checkup or have the bushes trimmed. I tell her that I live alone, and I do not want to have strangers descending on me for routine maintenance, while I recognize that it is needed.

Many commenters have said that Alexis is the reason she should have had two children. Risking everything on the ingratitude of one is ill-advised.

Σφιγξ said...

https://youtu.be/oCOsgF_9i6g?si=sNBwtTib-0EfZu7H

In hindsight, Martha would agree that she did not get a bad deal. "Uncle" Kevin Sharkey, the daughter's sperm donor, is like a son.

My mother forgot to pick me up many times, and gave me excessive responsibility as a child, but I was a difficult child to parent. Frank discussion and disapproval were more effective than smothering positive regard. Always having work to do.

My mother goes with me in things that matter like my cat(s) to the vet.


https://youtu.be/x66oNoO17Fo?si=OezW6UD6t0aXhupJ



Σφιγξ said...

Your trepidation with 22 years apart is noted. Two things guard against this: a contract written, and signed with teeth, such as an infidelity clause, which depends on the individuals and the circumstances involved, and a shared commitment to morality.

https://thedailyrecord.com/2014/07/15/the-art-of-the-infidelity-clause/

Human weakness and backsliding takes different forms in everyone. For instance, many young couples get fat, and then become sexually unattractive to each other, in the late thirties. Another possibility, among women, is this insidious goal of coasting while being a "stay-at-home mom." The Greatest generation did a better job of this, though the current iteration scrolls the phone, heats up something in the microwave, and then the children raise themselves on their electronic devices.

*Even now; when my brother gets exasperated with his daughter, who struggles to locate "we" on the prescribed reading page, will not take away her tablet entertainment.* I have shown him this:

https://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/Children-And-Watching-TV-054.aspx


I do not endorse throwing an infant into daycare to work, but a shared reality of a partnership is that both partners work, and contribute to society outside of home. There is the perennial argument for quality time with the juggling of routines. I will not get fat, and I will always work. The anxiety of not paying my bills makes me gag, and no matter how much money I earn, I appreciate the evolutionary pressure in the long run. The genome-level anxiety of not living up to you persists.

I tell my brother that he will eventually have to get off his ass; at midlife, and he will appreciate growing up, finally.

My mother once said that she wouldn't move in with her long-term boyfriend, Walter, because she did not want to take care of him. She said that she did not want to live alone, so she is subsequently inundated with Keith and his dependents. I told her; in balance, you can claim them as dependents on your taxes?

Σφιγξ said...

So what is my weakness, and what is the solution?

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20221005-emotional-infidelity-the-flirtation-that-undermines-couples#:~:text=Broadly%2C%20emotional%20infidelity%20describes%20a,line%20without%20necessarily%20becoming%20physical.

I cannot spend excessive unstructured time at work. I cannot be friends with either gender at work. No socializing outside of work with colleagues. I am not an easy person to get to know, and that is for the best. One respects the sanctity of the relationship by not airing one's clean or dirty linen, for cheap conversation.

The nature of my work, as it is, is that I witness individuals's most intimate secrets every day. I submit, and other people submit, to relating to me in this way; therefore, I have to delineate with others and coworkers unintentionally wanting to be close and breach these boundaries. It is for the best that I find a second way that develops my analytical ability, with fewer opportunities for emotional trespass.

When I want to spend more time with you, I must actively find ways of relating to you, and then we are both satisfied.

Σφιγξ said...

What I have to do; today, right before the end of the fiscal year:

https://cpr.heart.org/en/cpr-courses-and-kits/rqi

The mannequin for the simulation is frequently off, and travels all over the hospital. I must go today to do it. I have never had a year where doing something so easy was made so difficult. The computer, "Harder, push harder..," while it gives one feedback on the compressions.

Σφιγξ said...

I had to stay behind late to chart because I had patients from the cath lab and vascular surgery back-to-back. Also, a pregnant girl who vaped, and sustained a spontaneous pneumothorax requiring a chest tube, vaso-vagaled, but did not lose consciousness. I told her that I was perhaps not the best match for her as a nurse, not being able to empathize with her gravity and referred shoulder pain from the air under her skin. I tried to use narcs judiciously for the fetus.

So many young people vaping and dropping lungs!

https://www.facs.org/for-medical-professionals/news-publications/journals/case-reviews/issues/v3n4/hung-fong-vape/#:~:text=Smoking%20is%20a%20well%2Dknown,at%20risk%20for%20spontaneous%20pneumothorax.

Σφιγξ said...

Yes, I have to do RQI again, quarterly, by December 31st.

Σφιγξ said...

I stayed late to chart. I had four heavy patients, and I did not get lunch. Panting all day to keep apace.

Σφιγξ said...

I loaned the AARP-eligible Sagittarius on my floor my stethoscope (forgot to get back), and then I agreed to help with the completion of his RQI.

If I was working here in my seventies, I would want someone to have mercy on me.*

Σφιγξ said...

https://www.google.com/books/edition/The_Mystery_of_Marriage/B0iDAwAAQBAJ?hl=en&gbpv=1&dq=to%20recognize%20one's%20true%20soul%20mate%20derives%20from%20the%20chayah&pg=PA16&printsec=frontcover


Σφιγξ said...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o_YvzWuZesY